We have seven positions that have
been tweaked and tailored by sex experts to help you reach orgasm every single
time — plus, a few extra tricks so the road to bliss is even more of a sure
thing.
When it's a mind-blowing,
bed-rattling orgasm you're after, keeping it simple is absolutely key. Sure,
wild, crazy, never-knew-my-body-could-bend-that-way booty keeps your lust life
exciting, but if the goal of the moment is to break pleasure records, you have
to stick to the basics. "Trying to accomplish complicated acrobatics
distracts you from the sex itself, putting your focus on how you can contort
yourself, rather than on just experiencing the sensations," explains sex
educator Dorian Solot, coauthor of I (Heart) Female Orgasm. "When you want
to climax, the simplest positions are often also the best positions, and with a
few modifications, you can make them even more orgasm inducing than they
already are." Don't worry, we'd never leave you hanging. Here, Cosmo
custom-designed some of the carnal classics to make sure you always hit the
high notes.
You'll never see missionary
position the same way again. "While on your back, put a pillow under your
butt, lift your hips, and bring your legs up and back toward your shoulders, as
though you're folding in half," says Solot. This move allows him better
ease of thrusting and deeper penetration — a perk for both of you. Plus, it can
stimulate your G-spot. But consider this a warm-up — you're getting the zone
primed for a more intense orgasm. Once your G-spot feels sufficiently stroked,
put your legs down and have him get into coital-alignment-technique (CAT)
position. "He's on top, but he lifts his pelvic bone upward, aligning it
with your clitoris," says sex therapist Gloria Brame, PhD. "Then he
rocks against the area until you peak." "The legs-up position is a
slow burn that brings you to the brink and increases sensitivity. Then the
addition of clitoral rubbing takes you over the edge in a bigger way than if
you had done CAT alone," adds Brame.
You've probably tried an
all-fours pose before (at least, we hope you have!). But while mentally the
doggie-style position has great bad-girl benefits, in order to make it actually
orgasmic, you need to modify it a bit. "Lie on your stomach, lifting your
butt slightly so he can enter you," suggests Solot. "Your partner can
prop himself up with his hands in a push-up position or lie on top of
you." Not only does this facedown configuration provide increased friction
as he moves in and out, but you can gently grind your clitoral area against the
bed as well.
With all the twisting and
bending that goes on, sometimes sex can feel more like a cardio workout than a
pleasurefest. That's why it's important to have at least one relaxed orgasm —
inducing position in your repertoire. Such as this: "While you're on your
back, he should lie on his side, turned toward you," explains Solot.
"Swing both legs over his hips and thighs, making a bridge over
them." Then, just let him gently thrust into you. If it takes you a while
to climax, this pose is ideal. "It's not very aerobic, so the sex can go
on for a long time without either of you tiring out," says Laura Berman,
PhD, director of the Berman Center and author of The Passion Prescription.
"When you want to climax, it's easy to touch yourself or he can use his
top hand to stimulate you."
Girl-on-top tends to be a
go-to for achieving orgasm...and for good reason! "It allows you to
dictate the pace and depth of thrusting, but mainly, you have easy access to
your clitoris," says Berman. "You can touch your C-spot, have him
touch it, or rub against his pubic bone to achieve orgasm." But you can up
the ante by literally pulling a 180. Twist around so you're pointed toward his
feet in reverse cowgirl position. "Instead of straddling him, put your
legs together, feet flat between his legs," suggests Brame. The benefits
of this are twofold: With your legs together, the fit is even tighter, making
the sensations more intense. Plus, there's increased G-spot stimulation, which
combined with your own clitoral strokes, makes for an explosive orgasm.
In some cases, a simple change
of scenery can aid in achieving orgasm. For this move, you'll need a kitchen
table — one that comes to your man's waist. "Lie down on the table with
your butt near the edge," suggests Solot. "He enters you while
standing between your legs, holding on to your hips for leverage." You can
rest your feet on his shoulders or on the edge of the table. Because he's
standing, his hands are free to stroke your body," says Brame. "And
he's at a perpendicular angle, rather than right on top of you, making it
easier for him to touch your clitoris, unobstructed." To up your odds of
orgasming, clench and lift up your butt, which will increase the pelvic tension
and blood flow to the area.
This one's always a fan
favorite — he sits and you straddle him so you're face-to-face. "You have
a lot of control over the speed, angle, and motion because you can use your
arms and legs to help you maneuver," says Berman. "Rather than just
moving up and down, which can be especially tiring for you, sway forward and
back, rubbing your clitoral area against him." In addition to the freedom
of movement, there are a few other benefits to this booty move. "If you
lean back just a little bit, you'll get greater G-spot stimulation and he'll be
able to play with your clitoris," Brame explains. Plus, your breasts will
be perfectly aligned with his mouth, adding a whole other layer to the sexual
experience.
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Obviously, you know emotional
attachment is essential to achieving orgasm with your guy. And there's no
configuration that's more snuggly than the spoon. To assume the position,
simply lie on your side, your guy scooted up behind you. Rather than move in
and out, he should stay inside you, gently thrusting against the front wall of
your vagina. "Aside from fulfilling your cuddly needs, it provides
consistent stimulation to your G-spot, which is key for achieving orgasm from
intercourse," Berman points out. "Since he may not be able to
penetrate you as deeply though, guide his hand around your hot spot." And
just think: Once you've both climaxed, you'll be in perfect postcoital position
as well.
When it comes to achieving
supreme pleasure, being in the right mind-set is half the battle.
Let your thoughts wander. It
helps to transport yourself mentally to a sexy place. Fantasize that you're
getting it on in a lust-inspiring locale or even with another man, like a hot
trainer at your gym or, hell, Justin Timberlake. No guilt — it doesn't mean you
want to cheat on your guy.
Strengthen your senses.
Certain smells and sounds can have a Pavlovian affect on your libido. Think
about what puts you in the mood, and then designate an enhancer that will
signal to your brain and body that it's time to get naughty. For example,
before sex, put on a sultry jazz CD.
Be selfish. Worrying too much
about your guy's pleasure means you wind up ignoring your own. So silence the
inner monologue of "How am I doing?" and simply enjoy the experience.
Otherwise, it becomes more work than play.
Stay on course. A stressful
day's memories can still manage to sneak up on you, even when you're
mid-mattress session. To stay in the moment, try to focus your thoughts purely
on the physical and pay attention to how every touch, lick, and stroke feels.
-Dory Larrabee
SOURCE: Psychotherapist
Kathleen Cervenka, PhD,
author of In the Mood, Again
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